Butterfly Effect in Life: The Lost Confidence

This post is something different from the past posts. May be due to the fact that I realised how it is important to write about it or I feel that that some of my acquintances may be in some sort of situation or a part of such a situation which I am going to discuss here. 

This blog is not that popular, to be very distinctive not at all popular but things that are written here is experienced by all at any sort of time.

The Butterfly Effect is a basically a graph that looks like a butterfly in its appearance. A scientific graphical representation of chaos theory.

The wikipedia says:
In chaos theory, the butterfly effect is the sensitive dependence on initial conditions in which a small changeon one state of a deterministic non-linear system can result in large difference in a later stage.

In simple word, it says that if a butterfly flaps its wings at one place that can bring a hurricane at other place. (events are descriptive not actual)

So, whats the catch here?

Actually, I was watching this series Thirteen Reasons why recently. I could find so much resemblance to small little big things that goes on around us. We never notice or take those small little big things seriously that are potent to harm others.

For the non viewers of this series, I would just like to introduce it as a social awakening story that revolves around a girl, who was bullied mentally, physically and psychologically by the fellow students and acquintances to the extent that she was forced to slit her wrist. I am not her to give an review of this famous series but taking this platform to share some stories of social bullying that i happened to encounter and hear of my friends.

The English dictionary has two meanings for the word Bully:
(n) A person who uses strength or influence to harm or intimidate those who are weaker
(v) Use superior strength or influnce to intimidate someone, typically to force them to do something

So, here I am sharing some of the small little big things that matters...

Have you even been a victim of bullying? Or have you ever bullied anyone? Well, this is for both of the kinds....

The context of Butterfly effect was taken in order to explain how a small little gesture, attitude, expression or in that case anything towards anyone could have affected their lives.
So, lets start the stories...

************************* The Lost Confidence*************************

She was star, an all-rounder pioneering in every fields of endevour. Starting from academics, School choir, Flag bearer, appointment, show stopper, dancer, performer etc. No events were covered without her being on the list of participants. Apart from what ever she did, she was an active participant. Her confidence level sky rocketed as she was around people those always kept her spirit high and always kept her motivated.

Changing school didn't affect the fame and confidence she hade. Her personality spoke for her. New school was also the same. Participant and excelling in every field. Things were so good. People started to admire the charisma she carried. Some even tried to match the fashion quotient she carried. A perfect lady in the making. 

But, something happened...

She was getting surrounded with people those gradually started to make walls around her. She was devasted with some of her personal problems and life took an ugly turn. those positive people slowly got replaced with selfish, over rated, over confident, full of nonsense, self obssessed individuals. A fake environment across her developed that made her a bit confused of what she was upto. Her grades weren't what she would have liked to have. And the problems started to pile up.

She was dumped into a curriculam that she never wanted. Her choices weren't valued by her family or even her friends. Her confidence level started chrushing down. Series of friends were replaced with vultures those just had selfish attitudes. She started to confine herself in her room as she lacked quality friends. The thing that never changed was her nature of being the firdt helping hand when some one was in trouble. 

The helping nature also wasn't able to keep her with friends, and in her lows she didn't find anyone who would lift her confidence. Some selfish people around her just kept on bringing down the left apart confidence in her. Days passed, months passed...

One day she found herself in a position where facing a crowd was difficult...

Now, you must be confused about where was the bullying part? Well, looking closely we could see. Bullying is not by definition enforcing something on others. Bullying has its own streches of affects. This girl was bullied by the environment she lived in. There was no room for her to make better efforts as there was nobody to hold her and motiate her.

So, friends  are so important. Some good words are import. Appriciations are more important. Good doesn't harm but anything thats not good can bring on wide spread destruction.

The followings stories are going to be darker....